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Ending the Yelling Cycle: Using DBT Skills to Heal Birth Trauma and Parent with Peace

Ending the Yelling Cycle: Using DBT Skills to Heal Birth Trauma and Parent with Peace

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 In this episode of Beyond Birth Trauma, we sit down with Devora Segall, a mother of ten, therapist, and author, to explore the invisible threads that connect our own birth stories to the way we parent today.
Devora shares the touching history of her own mother’s isolated and traumatic hospital birth, an experience that sparked a generational mission to find deeper, more biological connections through nursing and attachment. We discuss how these "birth imprints" and the struggles of our mothers and grandmothers shape our own nervous systems before we even hold our first child.
If you have ever felt trapped in the yelling-guilt cycle, Devora offers a lifeline. She introduces us to DBT (Dialectical Behavioural Therapy), a powerful toolkit for moving out of "emotion mind" and into "Wise Mind." Through her personal stories, from the stress of getting a stubborn four-year-old dressed for school to managing the dynamics of a large family, she teaches us that we don't need to be perfect; we just need to be aware.
In this conversation, you’ll learn:
  • How your mother’s birth experience might be influencing your parenting style.
  • The "DEAR MAN" technique for communicating boundaries without rupturing connection.
  • Why "validation" is the most important step before asking a child to change their behavior.
  • How to forgive yourself and "repair" the relationship when things go wrong.
This is a heart-centered guide for any mother who wants to stop reacting from a place of past pain and start leading her family with calm, grounded confidence.
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