In this Baby Bitesize gold nugget episode, we gently unpack one of the biggest sources of anxiety in early parenting: sleep habits and attachment. If you’ve ever worried that feeding to sleep, rocking, co-sleeping, or lying beside your baby is creating bad habits or damaging secure attachment, this conversation is for you. You’ll hear a powerful mindset shift inspired by attachment expert Eli Harwood: secure attachment is not built on where or how your baby sleeps, but on consistent responsiveness, warmth, and emotional availability.

This episode invites you to release the pressure to control your child’s sleep and instead focus on what you can control, your responses, your mindset, and the connection you model. Because you are not the pilot of your child’s plane, you are the mechanic helping make it flight worthy.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

1. Why sleep associations are neutral, not good or bad
2. What actually builds secure attachment in early childhood
3. The difference between responsiveness and control
4. A secure attachment mindset shift to reduce sleep anxiety
5. How to know when a sleep habit is still serving your family
6. The three essentials needed to shift sleep patterns in a connected way: knowledge, skill, and desire
7. Why shame and blame keep you stuck, and what to focus on instead
8. How connection and safety create the foundation for healthy sleep

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For more information on this topic, head to the show notes: Episode 104 Show Notes

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Until next time, Thrivers