Meltdowns and mood swings can leave parents feeling stuck and overwhelmed. This episode unpacks meltdowns, mood swings, and the nervous system no one is talking about, showing why behavior escalates. Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge, Regulation First Parenting™ expert, explains how calming the brain creates real change.

If you’re exhausted by constant meltdowns, mood swings, and reactions that make no sense, you’re not failing—your child’s nervous system is overwhelmed.

This episode unpacks meltdowns, mood swings, and the nervous system no one is talking about and shows where real change begins.

Why does my child melt down even when nothing “big” happened?

Many parents are shocked by emotional outbursts that seem to come out of nowhere—especially after school or during simple transitions. What’s often happening isn’t defiance, but nervous system dysregulation.

When a child’s nervous system is stuck in survival mode—also called fight or flight or sympathetic overdrive—their brain can’t process logic, rules, or consequences.

Key takeaways:

1. Behavior is communication, not manipulation
2. A dysregulated brain repeats patterns—healthy or unhealthy
3. Calm isn’t the goal—flexibility is

Example: Your child explodes over homework. Their prefrontal cortex is offline, not their motivation.

Why doesn’t traditional discipline work during emotional dysregulation?

Most parenting advice starts after the nervous system is already on fire. Charts, rewards, and consequences fail because a dysregulated autonomic nervous system can’t learn.

Discipline without regulation feels like a threat, while discipline after regulation becomes guidance.

Remember:

1. A stressed brain can’t self-regulate
2. Discipline before regulation escalates power struggles
3. Regulation first restores access to impulse control

It’s not bad parenting—it’s a dysregulated brain.

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What’s actually happening in my child’s brain during mood swings?

When stress hormones flood the brain and nervous system, the amygdala hijacks behavior and shuts down executive function. This affects emotional regulation, mood swings, sleep, immune function, and learning.

Over time, chronic stress leads to:

1. Shorter fuses and bigger reactions
2. Trouble with impulse control