If you could write one thing to the people you love, what would it be? How do you want to be remembered when you have left this earth?

Rabbi Steve Leder, bestselling author of For You When I’m Gone, joins me to explore ethical wills, grief, and the quiet, brave power of telling the truth with love.

We talk about the messy reality of dying and mourning; what people avoid saying, what they wish they had said sooner, and how silence serves no one. Rabbi Leder shares what an ethical will really is, why it is for everyone, not just for those close to the end. He also shares practical guidance for putting your values, your stories, blessings and hard-won wisdom into words. The most meaningful inheritance is not money or "stuff". It is the clarity, the connection and the love that we can share with our loved ones.

This episode goes deep, it’s practical, and it’s very deeply human.

Special Note: This episode includes conversation about death, dying, grief and end of life planning. Please listen with care. This episode also contains some mild profanity, which in my opinion, is the spice of life. This interview was conducted in December 2025.

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