Are you stuck in co-dysregulation? When your child’s nervous system spikes, yours can too—creating a cycle of stress and overwhelm. In this episode, I share Regulation First Parenting™ strategies to calm both you and your child.

When your child’s emotions spike, it can feel like a wildfire—and sometimes, it spreads to you too. You’re not alone.

This episode dives into the real science behind co-dysregulation and how your own nervous system directly affects your child’s emotional regulation. Learn practical, step-by-step strategies to stay calm, reset your nervous system, and help your child self-regulate.

Why Do I Catch My Child’s Emotions?

Ever notice how your stress seems to mirror your child’s? That’s your mirror neurons in action, and it’s a core part of co regulation.

Research suggests that your child’s brain literally mirrors yours, sensing tension through your tone, posture, and facial expressions, shaping their emotional responses and stress response.

• Key takeaway: If your body signals threat, your child’s nervous system picks it up instantly, increasing emotional dysregulation and potentially impacting their mental health.
• Emotional emphasis: It’s not bad parenting—it’s biology.

Parent Story

One mom realized her lecturing only escalated her son’s meltdown. Pausing and softening her voice changed the dynamic entirely.

What Is Co-Dysregulation and Why Does It Happen?

Co-dysregulation happens when both parent and child’s nervous systems spike at the same time. It’s a reactivity loop: the child dysregulates, the parent gets triggered, stress amplifies, and both spiral.

Tip: Pause before responding. Ask yourself, “Am I calm enough to help?”

You cannot calm a dysregulated child from a dysregulated state. Your own nervous system must lead the way.

Parent Story

A parent learned to step back, breathe deeply, and approach calmly—creating a de-escalated environment where learning and problem-solving became possible.

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How Can I Co-Regulate Instead of Escalate?

Co-regulation isn’t about fixing your child—it’s about anchoring both of your nervous systems in safety. The polyvagal theory shows that a regulated adult cues a child’s body to stand down from threat.

Practical steps:

• Take a deep breath, stretch, or move to calm yourself first.
• Lead with safety, not control—lower your voice, soften your face, slow your movements.

Remember: kids learn by catching your calm, just as they catch chaos.

Parent Story

One mom stopped lecturing mid-meltdown, observed the pattern, and used one simple calming phrase to guide her child back to emotional regulation.

🗣️ “When your child’s meltdown triggers yours, you’re not failing—you’re catching their emotional fire, and the one who comes first wins for both.”

— Dr. Roseann

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