Original article: https://www.focusonthefamily.ca/content/8-expert-tips-to-survive-christmas-with-the-in-laws

🎄 8 Expert Tips to Survive Christmas With the In-Laws

Holiday gatherings can be joyful — and a little intense — especially when you’re spending Christmas with your partner’s family. This piece from Focus on the Family Canada walks through practical ways to keep the peace, strengthen relationships, and focus on what matters during the season.

✨ 1. Team Up With Your Spouse

Instead of seeing things as “us vs. them”, join your partner as a united front. Planning together can reduce stress and make decision-making easier.

🧭 2. Set Expectations in Advance

Talk openly about holiday plans, traditions, roles, and boundaries early — ideally well before December. This helps avoid misunderstandings when emotions and schedules are running high.

🤝 3. Build Bridges, Not Walls

Focus on connection, not competition. Each family has its own way of doing things — try to understand and appreciate differences rather than resist them.

🛌 4. Take Care of Yourself

It’s easier to be patient when you’re rested and comfortable. Schedule meals, breaks, and quiet time so you don’t burn out by evening.

🗣 5. Be Clear About What Matters Most

Express your own holiday traditions and values kindly. Sharing what’s important to you can help blend your family’s routines with your in-laws’ traditions.

💬 6. Let Your Spouse Advocate for You

Sometimes it really helps when your partner addresses tricky topics with their own family — they know the dynamics best.

🌟 7. Focus on the Positive

Celebrate the joy in the moment — even small things like a shared meal, a laughing grandchild, or a meaningful tradition are worth savoring. Gratitude goes a long way.

🤗 8. See the Bigger Picture

Remember why you’re there — it’s about spending time with people connected to someone you love. That mindset shift can really ease tension.