Have you ever frozen when someone asked you what you want? Do you feel guilty for having desires — like wanting something for yourself makes you selfish or unspiritual?

Episode Description

In Phase Two of The Path Home series, Debra reveals why hope has to come BEFORE deep healing can happen — and why most women with religious trauma have lost touch with their own desires. If you've spent years giving to everyone else while your own soul slowly starved, this episode will show you: that's not humility. That's harm. And it's time to reconnect with the dreams God planted in you before anyone told you they were wrong.

In this episode, you'll discover:

→ Why you freeze when asked "What do you want?" — and what that reveals

→ How religious trauma taught you that desire itself was dangerous

→ The truth about Psalm 37:4 and your God-given desires

→ Why becoming who you're meant to be isn't selfish — it's faithfulness

→ How to start planting seeds of hope even when dreaming feels scary

Healing Truth

Your desires are not the enemy. They're not "your flesh." God planted them in you for a reason — and reconnecting with them might just be the most honest prayer you've prayed in years. You have permission to want.

Scripture: Psalm 37:4 — "Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart."

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About Debra

Debra Shafer is a spiritual healing coach for Christian women and the creator of the Coming Home Journey—a gentle, soul-level pathway to help women untangle religious trauma, rebuild trust in God, and find peace without walking away from their faith. As the founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle, Debra brings together decades of experience in personal ministry, Biblical psychology, and trauma-informed mentoring. She knows what it's like to love God deeply while wrestling with fear, shame, and silence. Known for her voice of gentle clarity, healing, and truth, she now walks women home to the God they always hoped was real.

Listener Love

If this episode gave you permission to want again — to dream again — would you share it with a friend who needs this? And a quick review on Apple Podcasts helps more women discover that their desires aren't wrong — they were just buried.

This isn't surface-level faith advice. It's soul-level restoration for Christian women healing from religious trauma who long for inner peace, spiritual healing, and true connection with God. Through addressing generational trauma and nurturing God's love, we help you trust God completely and become who you were always meant to be.