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Why He Shuts Down Instead of Showing Up: A Trauma-Informed Look at Men

Why He Shuts Down Instead of Showing Up: A Trauma-Informed Look at Men

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 In this episode, host Lisa Urbanski talks with author Willie Handler about how father wounds, anxiety, and intergenerational trauma quietly shape men’s ability to open up, stay present, and build healthy relationships.

You’ll hear a compassionate, practical conversation about what’s really happening underneath “commitment issues,” and how both men and women can respond with understanding instead of blame.

You’ll learn:
  • How father relationship trauma impacts adult love and attachment
  • Why anxiety and shame often show up as avoidance or “I can’t commit.”
  • What intergenerational trauma is—and how it lives in your body and reactions
  • Simple tools (therapy, EMDR, breathwork, stillness) to start healing
If you’ve ever asked, “Why can’t he commit?” or “Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable people?”—this episode will help you connect the dots and take your next step toward healing.

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