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Parenting skills #5

Parenting skills #5

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 Auto-generated transcript:In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful, and the All-Merciful, and the All-Merciful. May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon you, and upon your family and friends, and upon your family and friends. Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, and upon his family and friends. Peace be upon you all. We look at the rules of Islamic parenting. I call them the six rules. We ask Allah to help us to understand the responsibility of parenting and to fulfill it. So, we are talking about life skills and as I mentioned to you, these are some life skills. One of the most important ones, reading inculcates this habit every single day. I say to people, you must read at least one book. I say one book per week, but okay, so let me be… So, let me be… Kind on you. One book per month at least. Minimum. I don't care what book you read, read any book you like, but one book per month, make this an absolute rule for yourself. Then increase it, two books, three books, four books, at least one. And inculcate it in the children. My father, again, I'm sorry, I keep on coming back to my father, but this is a parenting thing, so I shouldn't be. He used to read three books at a time. I do the same thing. Three different plots. One will be a history book, one will be something else. I can run those same, those things in my head simultaneously. Have the lunch. Very good for the brain. He did that. What he would do is, he would bring the books to me. He would give me a book. And then he would come the next day. Or maybe give me a day, the third day. And he would say, oh, pade, did you read the book? I say, you just give it to me. He said, two days have passed. What did you just give? Sign in the book. So he then tells me, what do you think? So I start telling him, the author is saying, no, I'm not asking you what the author is saying. I know what the author is saying. I read the book before I give it to you. I want to know what you are saying. So don't regurgitate the stuff to me. The author said, forget the author. What are you saying? You read the book. What is your take on this? So I routinely read books. I do an analysis of the book. I write it down. I write down key points that I need to remember. And that helps me in my understanding of life and so on and so forth. And in my own writing, which I do. Right? And then, respect for law and order. Respect for duty. I don't know, some of you may have seen this thing of people saying, my 10-year-old drives a car beautifully. Why does your 10-year-old drive a car? Beautifully or otherwise? You're breaking a law. You're teaching a child to break the law. And parents do this very proudly. You're teaching a child to break the law. You know, in Islam, some of our ulama have said that if you break a law of a country which is for the benefit of all the people, you have exited Islam. You are a murtad. Even if you don't want to go that far, definitely in Islam, it is a crime. It is a very major sin. So for example, you go through a red light. Nowadays, of course, there are cameras everywhere. We fear the camera. We don't fear Allah swt seeing us. We fear the camera. Because then they'll send you a very expensive photograph. Right? Going through a red light. This is, in Islam, this is haram. Because you are, potentially, you can cause an accident. The law, you might say, where is the law in the sharia to say, red light? No, the draw doesn't have to be there. The sharia allows laws to be made for the benefit of all people. Traffic laws are such laws. And others. So teach them respect for law. And give responsibility. It's very, very important to give children responsibility. Give them daily chores. Each person has a role to do. Your job is to wash the dishes. Your job is to do this, do that. Whatever. And don't say, no, no, no, why should my child wash dishes? We have suffered. No. Teach them the, teach them dignity of labor. Once again, back to my father. Every Sunday, we used to, we had a ritual in our house. And that was, all the shoes would be brought. We brought, sit in the line. Brown shoes, black shoes and those days, you, all these sneakers and stuff, you could have. You wore canvas shoes. And the canvas shoes had to be white. So with, for white, you had that lime, which you rubbed on it. So black shoe with black polish, black polish application brush, and then black polish shining brush. Then brown polish and this. And my father used to sit there, and we all used to sit, each one with their shoes. And we would polish our own shoes. And we told you, we had servants. No. You do your own job. So you apply the polish with the brush. Brush it with that. Then you hold the shoe between your knees. And you take a polishing cloth. And you rub it like this. You would have seen the film, or those of you who are from Mumbai, you see the Mumbai railway stations. How do, I know how to do that. That whole ritual. You shine ...
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