The anxious avoidant dynamic is one of the most common patterns couples fall into, and it can create a powerful push-pull cycle that leaves both partners feeling misunderstood, unseen, and disconnected. In this episode, I’m breaking down why this dynamic forms, how it intensifies under the weight of parenting, and the small shifts that can completely change the way you relate to each other.

I also share real client examples to help you see this pattern in action, why anxious and avoidant styles are so often drawn to each other, and what it actually takes to start breaking the cycle so you can move toward a more secure, connected marriage.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• What makes the anxious avoidant pairing so common

• How the push-pull cycle starts and why it escalates

• The role mental load plays in intensifying this dynamic

• Why anxious partners pursue and avoidant partners pull back

• The specific shifts each partner needs to make to help the relationship feel safer

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