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Parenting skills #2 – Connect to Allahﷻ

Parenting skills #2 – Connect to Allahﷻ

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 Auto-generated transcript:In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds. And peace and blessings be upon the honour of the Prophet and the messengers. And peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, and upon his family and his companions. After that, my brothers and sisters, we talked about the overall background, the reason why parenting, conscious and thoughtful parenting is absolutely critical. Parenting is not something that will happen by default, it's not something that will happen because you want it. It is something you have to work on. And it starts with having a dream for your child, which is a shared dream. So it has to be a three-way conversation, the father, the mother and the child together. So the first one, connect to Allah . The training of connecting to Allah begins with tahajjud. Make tahajjud fardh on yourself. Right? If you want to raise good children, make tahajjud fardh on yourself. Don't let a single day pass starting from tonight. That you have not prayed at least two rakats of time. No matter what, whether you are well, you are sick or whatever, you are travelling, not travelling, doesn't matter. I'm not talking fiqh, I'm talking here the hope of Allah . Make tahajjud fardh on yourself. This is what will give your children, that's the connection. I mentioned this story many times before. And I'm mentioning it now again because I see a lot of new faces. You might not have heard this story from me. My earliest memory of my father, Anandul Ali. These were the days before plastics. There were no plastics. Chairs were made of wood. Glasses were made of glass, not of plastic. And so on. So we lived in, where we lived in India. In a big house. But this was the day, this was the days before. I'm talking about the late 50s. So it's the days before hot and cold running water. There were no geysers and so forth. Water used to be heated outside. Then brought inside. But tahajjud time there is no one to heat the water and bring it. So cold water. Every day around 2.30 or something, I would hear the sound of the metal bucket in the bathroom. You had bucket of GI, galvanized iron. It had a handle. So my father would put it on the floor, would tank. Then he would drop the handle, it would blank. So that was my father getting ready to make wudu. Then he would make wudu. Then he would pray tahajjud. And we could hear him. When he was, he would pray in the other room. Where we were sleeping. The main room. But he would, we could hear his recitation. And when he finished and his duas. Yeah. To this day I live by those duas. And then he would finish that. Then he would sit and read Quran. So he would hear him reciting Quran. Then at the time of salatul fajr, when the time comes to fajr, he would come inside. Turn on the lights and say, salatul khairu minna naum. And he would pull out blankets off. You're a little kid, you hated that. But that's how we, there's no option. There's no option of not getting up for salatul fajr. Whether you are five years old or you are eight years old or you are ten years old, makes no difference. You get up for salatul fajr and you play salatul fajr by jama'at. We lived very far from masjid. So my father would do the imamat. I would call the adhan. And the children would pray. Behind that, my mother and our sisters. No option. There's no question of, oh, chota bachcha hai sora. No, no, no, no. No chota bachcha. You are going to wake up for salatul fajr and you will pray by jama'at khalas. It's not a matter open for any discussion. This is how you raise children. You want someone. You want your child to cry in the night. Cry in the night for you when you are in your grave. Raise them like this. Teach them to take from the treasure of the parna. And another, give them memories. Give your children memories. When they think about things, good things, let them think of you. Another one of these. My father again. My brother and I, you know, we travel a lot and so on. Sometimes you have some problems, some issue. So, you would phone him. And tell him, papa, this thing matters here. This thing we have to do. Some issue we need. He would say, theek hai. Mai pakad leta unku. Diyen hai tak chhoda nahi. Huh? You say, okay. I will hold on to him. I will not leave him until he gives you. Who is this? Who will you hold on? Huh? You call me. You call me. You call me. You call me. You call me. You call me. You call me. You call me. You call me. to give medicines to people. He would treat them. He would not take the fees. Then he would also give the money to buy medicines. So, I told him, how is this? What kind of? It's supposed to be a business. All your colleagues and all your contemporaries, they've got big nursing homes and they're making money and so on. And you know, alhamdulillah, his diagnosis, Allah had given him so much. I've never seen clinical diagnosis like my father's. ...
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