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Kuwait Parenting Workshop #2

Kuwait Parenting Workshop #2

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 Auto-generated transcript:I want to remind myself and you that as far as children are concerned, the only thing that parents will be questioned about before Allah is how those children were raised, about their tarbiyah. Right? You will not be asked whether your child was a doctor or an engineer or a pilot or an architect and so on. None of which are bad things to have. All good things, I am telling you. But you will not be questioned about that. You will be questioned only about the tarbiyah of the child. What is it that the child did with respect to his beliefs? And with respect to his akhlaq, his dealings? So when you are talking about what is my dream for my child, okay, that's your dream for the child. But you are not the child. At the end of the day, he is the one who is going to or she is the one who is going to have to do what you have dreamt. So where is their commitment in that? So that is very important for you to understand. Okay? So the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the goal and the commitment for the dream comes from within the child, it's not going to happen. It will not happen. So, you have to guide the child to have a kind of dream which also aligns with your own dream. If you don't do that, and it is only your dream, it won't work. And then obviously when I say you, I mean both the mother and the father. So, it has to be a three-way conversation. Sit, three of you sit together and talk about this dream. What is it that motivates you? How will you do this? And so on. So, the dream, your dream for the child really should be the child's dream for herself or himself supported by you. It's not a question, I want my child to be this or that. You may want. You may want. Won't happen. Unless you put the effort. And unless the child also wants that to happen. So, have those conversations. I don't know if you have them yet, but you should have them. Now, parenting as I say is a contact sport. It's not a armchair dialogue. You can't sit and, you know, I want this, I want that. No, it has to be your involvement. And your involvement includes your time. It includes your talent. It includes money. But much more important than money is your time. So, how much time? How much time do you give to your child? And the usual answer we get from people is, Oh, but you see, I'm very busy. I have this job. I have to travel. You're making the choices. It is your child. You have to make the choices. And if you say, I have to do all of this. That's the choice you're making. Then don't expect magic to happen because magic won't happen. Right? Right? Andre Agassi, tennis player, who had the most powerful serve of any tennis player in history. He started, literally, his father started him playing tennis, literally, when he was the highest. He was the height of an adult tennis racket. So, how old is that? Maybe two years old. He just taught us the racket. And his father designed a ball throwing machine. In those days, they didn't have these machines. Nowadays, you can buy them. But in those days, he designed a ball throwing machine which used to throw the ball at a speed of, if I'm not mistaken, about a hundred kilometers an hour. So, like a bullet. And Andre Agassi's father had this rule that he had to, again, if I'm not mistaken with the figures, he had to face one thousand serves. This ball is being fired. He has to face that serve and hit it back one thousand times a day. So, by the time Andre Agassi was like ten or twelve years old, he had already faced a million serves, which no competition, no competitor of his ever did. So, the key is the dream of the father, starting early enough, and then consistent effort on that. Not a day was missed. There was no way, as long as I was not sick in bed, I was not sick. Whether it's Christmas, whether it is this, whether it is that, it doesn't matter. You are going to fire one thousand serves in a day. And there are many such stories about, I'm giving you examples from athletics and sports because they're easy to find. Many such examples. Great sports people don't become great sports people by wishing for it. There is a lot of energy, there is a lot of effort that goes into it. And the same rule applies. So, your commitment as a parent, how committed are ...
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