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Kuwait Parenting Workshop #1

Kuwait Parenting Workshop #1

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 Auto-generated transcript:I want to remind myself and you that as far as children are concerned, the only thing that parents will be questioned about before Allah is how those children were raised, about their tarbiyah. Right? You will not be asked whether your child was a doctor or an engineer or a pilot or an architect and so on. None of which are bad things to have. All good things, I am telling you. But you will not be questioned about that. You will be questioned only about the tarbiyah of the child. What is it that the child did with respect to his beliefs? And with respect to his akhlaq, his dealings? And that is why it is so important to pay attention to that. See, I want to draw your attention to is this, that people in our normal sort of, you know, we will talk, say, well, so and so has been blessed with a child. Right? Or so and so has not been blessed with a child. Some people have children, some don't have children. Although Allah swt in the ayat of Mishra Allah swt made it very clear. Allah swt said, Allah is the one who has control over everything. . Allah said, He gives to whoever He wants to give. He gives to whoever He wants daughters. And He gives to whoever He wants sons. And Allah said, to some He gives both. And to some He gives nothing. So it is the, something which is given by Allah swt. Children. So I know many people, some friends, some others who talk about, who are so desperate to have children. And if they don't get children, they feel very bad about it. Society also puts pressure on them. How is it you don't have children? How long have you been married? Did you seek particular attention? Did you do this, do that? People ask all these funny questions. So there is a lot of sort of psychological pressure, social pressure. And then of course desire also. Alhamdulillah. No one can say, No one can say. No one can say. No one can say. No one can say. No one can say. No one can say. No one can say. Alhamdulillah, the world today has, how many, 7 billion? 7 billion didn't happen by accident. Because people have a desire to have children, so they have children. So, Alhamdulillah, this is all the Qadar of Allah. Allah made the earth, He created human beings, and then He put this desire to propagate the species in the hearts of people, so they are doing it. So, we talk about this, people who don't have children, they feel as if they are somehow, I won't say cursed, but not blessed. But the thing I say to them, I say to the others also, which is, look in the Quran and show me where Allah called children a blessing. Find me the place. Niyama. Allah, Subhanahu wa ta'ala, called children fitna. Trust. Inna wa alhamalukum wa auladukum. Niyama or fitna? Fitna. In Surah Al-Taghabi, Allah said this, In Surah Al-Taghabi, Allah also said, Inna wa alhamalukum wa auladukum, aduwan lakum. They are your enemies. Azwajikum wa auladukum. Your spouses and your children are your enemies. Except those who you have. So, forgive them and treat them and guide them correctly and so on. So, I'm not saying you should not have children. I'm saying, hamza merla givu. But don't just imagine that because you have a child, you are somehow blessed in this special manner. You're not. You have now entered the testing ground. If Allah gives you a child, Allah is giving you a child. He does not give you a test. If Allah does not give you a child, seriously, when people come to me and ask me, I say, thank Allah. Say, Alhamdulillah. Should I do this operation, that operation? No, I'm not. You're asking my opinion, I say no. Don't do any operation. Ask Allah. Allah will give you. So, I want. Why do you want? What? Huh? Huh? You're not sitting in this house in a bad manner. Don't feel at peace at all. Don't feel at peace at all. Don't feel at peace at all. Don't feel at peace at all. Don't feel at peace at all. Don't feel at peace at all. Don't feel at peace at all. Don't feel at peace at all. Don't feel at peace at all. Don't feel at peace at all. Don't feel at peace at all. Don't feel at peace at all. Don't feel at peace at all. Don't feel at peace at all. There is no one to sit and eat. And it will be left. So the point is that, first and foremost, think about this. Those of you who are, who don't have children, or who are not yet married, and once you get married, you will want to have children. Don't make that into a default setting. Right? So spend some thought on this. Say, do I really want children? Alhamdulillah, by all means have children. But do that thoughtfully. I'm not discouraging you. I'm saying, do it thoughtfully. Spend some. It deserves that thought. And if you don't have children, if you don't have children, don't need to feel bad about it. Don't need to feel somehow defensive. Alhamdulillah. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala has Qadar. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala has Qadar. He gave us, if you look in Islam, there are many examples of some of the biggest names in our scholars, in our Sarbh Sali, who never had ...
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