The Ones Who Stayed, and the Ones Who Couldn't” – Midwife’s Grief, Vulnerability & Reckoning with Amy Garrett cover art

The Ones Who Stayed, and the Ones Who Couldn't” – Midwife’s Grief, Vulnerability & Reckoning with Amy Garrett

The Ones Who Stayed, and the Ones Who Couldn't” – Midwife’s Grief, Vulnerability & Reckoning with Amy Garrett

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In this heartfelt episode of Midwife Crisis, Kelli Zakharoff sits down with the thoughtful and passionate Amy Garrett—registered midwife and perinatal counsellor—to talk about the emotional weight midwives carry, and why it’s time we start acknowledging it.

You might remember Amy’s moving post on the International Day of the Midwife—it resonated deeply with many in the birth world. In this conversation, she shares the story behind it and reflects on the grief, trauma, and moral tension that often go unspoken in midwifery care—especially within systems that don’t always make space for emotional honesty.

Kelli and Amy explore the signs of vicarious trauma, the emotional cost of bearing witness, and the need for better support structures like clinical supervision.

(00:44) Meet Amy Garrett: A Midwife's Journey

(01:55) The Emotional Impact of Maternity Care

(03:16) Amy's Viral Post: Honouring Midwives

(05:57) Understanding Vicarious Trauma

(10:52) The Weight of Grief and Guilt

(12:56) Creating Safe Spaces for Midwives

(13:46) The Importance of Speaking Up

(15:15) Supporting Midwives: A Call to Action

(17:00) Amy's Personal Reflections and Advice

(22:25) The Need for Systemic Change

Thanks for listening, for more resources and support relating to today's episode check out these links:

https://www.collectivebeing.org/

https://blueknot.org.au/

https://blueknot.org.au/supporters/self-care-for-supporters/

https://nursemidwifehpa.org.au/our-program/peer-support-service-explained

https://www.nmsupport.org.au

https://www.anmf.org.au/

https://www.nmsupport.org.au/managers-employers-and-educators/Navigating-the-notification-process

https://pynkhealth.com.au/psychologist-for-trauma

https://ntgcounselling.com.au/contact/

Griefline 1300 845 745

Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636

Lifeline Australia

Hours: Available 24 hours

Call 13 11 14 or Text 0477 13 11 14

Midwifery Birth Trauma Support by Jess The Midwife

Instagram - @jess.themidwife

To buy your copy of Midwife Crisis: From Trust to Trauma visit: midwifecrisis.com.au


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