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Does your partner experience their relationship with you through a certain detachment?

Do you feel coldness and distance within the relationship that is difficult to explain?

Do you strive to grow your relationship, but have been stuck in the same spot for months or even years?

A partner with an avoidant attachment style of emotion can build walls and create distances in any couple relationship and can show strict communication limits and undermine a romantic relationship. The detached attitude of the avoidant attachment personality can be frustrating for a partner, who will experience feelings of uselessness and/or neglect, even to the point of feeling completely abandoned.

Those who in a relationship with an avoidant partner can, justifiably, take a few steps back and question the entire relationship.

I recommend that you listen to this book if your partner:

  • Has a shy, detached, elusive personality or seems impervious to love and emotions.
  • Struggles to think as a couple and to build a sense of "us".
  • Obstructs, or deviates from any attempt to communicate your hurt feelings. 
  • Cannot - or will not - accept help from others.
  • Shows boundless love for a pet but can be cool and aloof with you.
  • Regards any request for intimacy from you as pressurising.
  • Shows difficulties in living the sexual life of a couple in a natural way, sometimes even avoiding intimacy in their relationships.
  • Is not aware of these dynamics, so can come to question love, to the point of thinking that they are a difficult person.

If you do not intervene soon, those in a couple relationship with an avoidant person will end up having to settle for a relationship that consists of distances, until the relationship eventually fragments. Everything you have built together will have been in vain.

Understanding the wounds of attachment is the best gift you can give to your relationship, and grow and nurture intimacy.

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©2020 David Lawson, PhD (P)2021 David Lawson, PhD

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  • Larry W. Rapp
  • 08-03-2021

Great Trauma Resource

Great resource for trauma techniques to expand your repertoire! Thanks to author for giving us a wonderful book.

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  • Gary M. Keene
  • 08-03-2021

Love it!!

This is a great book. Tons of good information and straight forward interventions. There's refresher stuff from grad school but also new information. I am SUPER glad I listen this book.

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  • Shane J. Rall
  • 08-03-2021

This book is a gentle teacher for our clients

This is a great tool for therapists working with clients who need support with attachment struggles. Many of the ideas are practical however to have the tools assembled when I need a resource at the tip of my fingers, it helps a lot.

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  • Dennis T. Burnett
  • 08-03-2021

Good for parents or family therapists

I was surprised at how much of this book's focus is for parents trying to help with their child's attachment issues.

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  • 08-03-2021

Every topics are very clear

An excellent resource for all therapists. There are lot's of information included this book. Each and every topics are very clear.

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  • Dylan
  • 07-03-2021

This is awesome book

I stumbled upon this book while researching attachment theory workbooks and pre-ordered it immediately. I was SO happy with what arrived! Sleek cover, insightful content, and the exercises are AWESOME.

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  • Owen
  • 07-03-2021

Great Book

I am very impressed with this book and will use it personally and professionally in my own couples therapy practice. This author did an amazing job and I hope this resource gets all the positive praise and attention that it deserves.

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  • John
  • 07-03-2021

Helpful Audiobook

I am so impressed with this workbook - what a gem. This book breaks down attachment theory into pragmatic language and examples and has worthwhile scales and tools for assessment and really facilitates deep understanding and change for healthier personal functioning and relational dynamics.

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  • Jayden
  • 07-03-2021

Good Book

This book will help listener pay closer attention to the relational curriculum that has formed them. As a somewhat seemingly superficial aside, part of the book's charm is its format, layout, font, and illustrations - each of which come in second behind its good content - but nonetheless, make the book both easy and appealing.

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  • Wyatt
  • 07-03-2021

Simple, accessible, functional

This audiobook is not only a simple, accessible, and approachable handbook, but is also very practical. Attachment theory and its implications for relationships is front and center and written about - and written for - those who care about dynamics in human relationships.

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  • 08-03-2021

Every topics are very clear

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  • Spencer Moss
  • 08-03-2021

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  • 08-03-2021

This book is a gentle teacher for our clients

This is a great tool for therapists working with clients who need support with attachment struggles. Many of the ideas are practical however to have the tools assembled when I need a resource at the tip of my fingers, it helps a lot.

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  • Bailey Davison
  • 08-03-2021

Love it!!

This is a great book. Tons of good information and straight forward interventions. There's refresher stuff from grad school but also new information. I am SUPER glad I listen this book.

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  • David Harrison
  • 08-03-2021

Great Trauma Resource

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  • Leah Wright
  • 07-03-2021

Simple, accessible, functional

This audiobook is not only a simple, accessible, and approachable handbook, but is also very practical. Attachment theory and its implications for relationships is front and center and written about - and written for - those who care about dynamics in human relationships.

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  • 07-03-2021

Good Book

This book will help listener pay closer attention to the relational curriculum that has formed them. As a somewhat seemingly superficial aside, part of the book's charm is its format, layout, font, and illustrations - each of which come in second behind its good content - but nonetheless, make the book both easy and appealing.

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  • Natasha Barker
  • 07-03-2021

Great Book

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  • Mia Wood
  • 07-03-2021

This is awesome book

I stumbled upon this book while researching attachment theory workbooks and pre-ordered it immediately. I was SO happy with what arrived! Sleek cover, insightful content, and the exercises are AWESOME.

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