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This intimate memoir reveals the woman inside one of autism’s most prominent figures, Jennifer O'Toole. At the age of 35, Jennifer was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome, and for the first time in her life, things made sense. Now, she exposes the constant struggle between carefully crafted persona and authentic existence, editing the autism script with wit, candor, passion, and power. Her journey is one of reverse-self-discovery not only as an Aspie but - more importantly - as a thoroughly modern woman. 

Beyond being a memoir, Autism in Heels is a love letter to all women. It’s a conversation starter, a game-changer, and a firsthand account of what it is to walk in Jennifer's shoes (especially those iconic red stilettos). 

Whether it's bad perms or body image, sexuality or self-esteem, Jennifer's journey is as much a human journey as one on the spectrum. Because autism looks a bit different in pink, most girls and women who fit the profile are not identified, facing years of avoidable anxiety, eating disorders, volatile relationships, self-harm, and stunted independence. Jennifer has been there, too. Autism in Heels takes that message mainstream. 

From her own struggles and self-discovery, she has built an empire of empowerment, inspiring women the world over to realize they aren't mistakes. They are misunderstood miracles.

©2018 Jennifer Cook O'Toole (P)2020 Dreamscape Media, LLC

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great book.

very informative. well read. eye opener. helped me so much. everyone should read it. thanks

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  • kayla
  • 09-10-2020

A must read for women with late diagnosis

Jennifer’s book illuminated so many blind spots for me in my life as an undiagnosed autistic female. I cried, laughed and listened along with my husband so I could share my own experience and get his perspective on parts I didn’t understand. We both learned so much.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 30-08-2020

amazing

I was completely able to identify with this author and her experiences. i already know i am autistic and this book helped me with conformation. i just hope that i will able to successfully gain my diagnosis so i can have better support in navigating this NT world.

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  • felix
  • 12-08-2020

down my own personal memory lane, with tears

Dear Jennifer, thank you for writing this for us. Thank you for helping me understand my daughter, my sister, my mother, and myself. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story. thank you for writing the books you wanted to read. may we all learn from your courage. <3

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  • NANI
  • 08-08-2020

captivating

loved it. my story was being told by another me. 💘 never thought I would find another experience like mine. very well read. paints a picture anyone can see. thank you!

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  • grey6
  • 12-06-2020

Bravo!

This is an excellent read by an important advocate for women on the spectrum. Jennifer's informative and personal style of writing is matched in value by her masterful narration of her journey. I have both the kindle version and audible narration of this important work. Although it was great to reference the text in terms of emerging understanding of neurodiversity, I found myself most enjoying listening to Jennifer add nuance and color to her language. It's as much a work of art as it is a step forward in qualitative research for females with ASD. This rare and wonderful balance gifts the reader/listerner with a sense of deep understanding, while feeling deeply understood,

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  • Melissa Hood
  • 02-12-2020

Made my whole life make sense

I'm 44 and have a recently diagnosed 14 year old daughter. My whole life made sense to me after listening to this book. All of the struggles she talks about resonated deeply with me. I highly recommend this book if you are a woman who suspects she has ASD or if you love a woman with ASD. Her voice really breathes life into the story.

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  • Drea
  • 20-11-2020

Healing,insightful

Wonderful book,explained in a manner anyone,especially, on the spectrum will understand. Honest,detailed and greatly needed!

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  • Catherine Capone
  • 17-10-2020

easy listening

The book was a written in a conversational style. I've read and listened to many books on the topic but this authors personal retelling of her ups and downs deepened my understanding.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 06-08-2020

A wonderful book

I loved this. As someone with Autism, this helps me better understand myself. I was diagnosed at 5, but didn't know about it till I was 13. Ever since then I've wanted to learn more about Autism so I could learn about and understand myself. I'm also an aspiring writer and storytelling, so it's a bit upsetting to see how we are portrayed in media. It also seemed heard to find stories of people with Autism like me, so when I saw this book I was so happy and I really enjoyed it.

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  • Eva
  • 17-11-2020

Some good info but very narrow point of view

I was very excited to listen to this book. Unfortunately it didn’t meet my expectations. The author uses her own experience and seems to generalize those to be a one size fits all persons on the autism spectrum, especially women, and that’s just wrong. People on the autism spectrum are as diverse as the rest of the human spectrum, if you have met one autistic person, then you have only met one! Not everyone who is autistic has mind blindness not everyone who is autistic (also those diagnosed as adults) has low self esteem and so on. That being said the author has her experiences, some are relevant to this book,she is autistic and a mother of autistic kids so absolutely has that experience/expertise. Unfortunately she chooses to generalize her own views and experience like every AS person is the same as her and that devalues the book. That is disinformation and can cause further problems for those on the spectrum.

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  • Sarah Tobbell
  • 26-05-2020

Thank you.

Usually when you wright a book review you start by saying how good it was; however the only words I have for this book is thank you;

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  • ChildOfTheUniverse
  • 06-01-2021

Fascinating, enlightening

I absolutely loved this book - and it's answered a lot of questions for me! I noticed some people criticised the author's animated delivery - I can't imagine why, her delivery suits the book very well. It's extremely enlightening, written with both passion and compassion. Recommended.

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  • LanaLeigh
  • 02-01-2021

A Truly life changing book.

I really can't express what an incredible book this is. This is an absolute must read for women on the spectrum and the people close to them. The only reason I gave the performance 4 stars was because the sound of her swallowing loudly between sentences drove me a but mad but hey! I have Aspergers! I think its a phenomenal piece of work overall and I'm keen to read her other books.

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  • AvidReader
  • 22-09-2020

sceptical at first but oh so worth it!!

As someone on the spectrum who struggles with my identification as a woman, I assumed this will not be my cup of tea. I could not have been more wrong, Jennifer is eloquently and entertainingly illustrates and explores so many of the experiences I can relate to. This made for a brilliant read and such a help in feeling a little less alienated in the world of autism experiences. Also a guild of sorts for what is to come and a tool to help me explain some of my process more clearly to others.

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  • Becky
  • 05-08-2020

Life changing

A quite frankly amazing book. Eye opening and relatable. Each trait discussed is explained in terms of its purpose, how it presents in boys and how it may present in girls. I think this book might have just changed my life.

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  • Laura Crowley
  • 24-05-2020

This is a must listen for anyone with an interest in autism!

This book grabbed my attention from the first chapter. The fact that the author narrated it adds hugely to the experience. I have stopped numerous times to take note of quotes, there are so many insightful points. This book is a must for anyone with an interest in autism, but the story goes beyond autism and selves into the human experience. I am thrilled I chose this book!

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