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Are you Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? How the science of adult attachment can help you find – and keep – love

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By: Amir Levine, Rachel Heller
Narrated by: Robert Petkoff
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'A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship.' John Gray, PhD., bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

An insightful look at the science behind love, Attached offers listeners a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections.

Is there a science to love? In this groundbreaking audiobook, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller reveal how an understanding of attachment theory – the most advanced relationship science in existence today – can help us find and sustain love.

Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment explains that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner’s ability to love them back.

Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.

Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

With fascinating psychological insight, quizzes and case studies, Dr Amir Levine and Rachel Heller help you understand the three attachment styles, identify your own and recognize the styles of others so that you can find compatible partners or improve your existing relationship.

'For its many, many fans, Attached has been life changing.' - Stylist

‘Over a decade after its publication, one book on dating has people firmly in its grip’ – The New York Times

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Critic Reviews

Should be essential reading for everyone. Reading this book I understood for the first time why my love life was the way it was . . . Such a vital read to help you understand your own behaviour and that of others. (Marianne Power)
Revelatory (The New York Times)
A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship. (John Gray, PhD., bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)
Chock-full of tips, questionnaires, and case studies, this is a solidly researched and intriguing approach to the perennial trials of looking for love in all the right places and improving existing relationships.
A practical, enjoyable guide to forming rewarding romantic relationships.
A valuable tool whether you are just entering a relationship with a new partner or – as in my case – even after you've been married twenty-one years, and had thought you knew everything about your spouse.
For its many, many fans, Attached has been life changing. (Stylist)
Anyone who has been plagued by that age-old question – 'What is his deal?" – could benefit from a crash course in attachment theory.
A fascinating and enormously useful guide to one of life's most important ventures – finding and sustaining a secure, satisfying love relationship. (Phillip R. Shaver, PhD, Distinguished Professor of Psychology, University of California, Davis and Past President, International Association for Relationship Research)
I have lost count of the number of times that I have recommended this book to clients. In it, the authors explain a complicated subject in brilliantly accessible terms, to help us better understand ourselves and the way we form relationships, enabling us all to heal from past wounds and build better futures. (Emma Reed Turrell, author of What am I Missing?)
This book is both fascinating and fun. Attached will help every reader understand whom they are attracted to as partners, why, and what they can do to reach fulfillment in love. I enjoyed every moment. (Janet Klosko, PhD., co-author of the bestselling Reinventing Your Life)
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I want to say this book changed my life, and I'm not exaggerating at all. I feel I'm equipped knowledge and tools to treat myself kinder and manage my relationships better.

Really helped me

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we need to be aware of why we behave in a certain way so we can be in control, instead of moved by our unconscious fears and emotions that get triggered by others or by our own attachment style.

So if we understand the traits of people with secure attachment style we might be able to recognize those people who will match our needs...have a better chance to loving and healthy relationship.
Good news, 50% of population has a secure attachment style.
We just don't consider them because we think they are boring.

Our "love feelings" are triggered by our wrong perception that intensity is love. Our brain is easily fooled.

The book won't "save" us but give a good idea of why and what to do. Goes a little against all other self growth books I read, which is a little confusing. But the truth can never be in one book only.
The main ideas can be useful, then the trick is to adapt it all to yourself.
Books are like a mirror, sometimes it shows things you can't see... just a different prospective.

should be thought on schools

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This book was easy to follow and make a lot of sense. I wish I had it twenty years ago! Must read / listen for anyone who struggles in there relationship(s).

Simple but Valuable Listen

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I feel so elated after listening ... so many questions answered as to why a 5 year relationship was the complete opposite to my 20 year marriage 🙏🏼🙏🏼 so simple once you are aware 🙏🏼🙏🏼 Thankyou so much for the new formed clarity

Absolutely Brilliant

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A must read for everyone, regardless of there current relationship status. I wish I had read this sooner.

Amazing

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