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A Comprehensive Work(book) for Both Sexes/Couples

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Reviewed: 08-11-2020

Dr Grays take on the sexes is unique, imho. Mars stereotype corresponds with the Avoidant/Island attachment style, and Venus, the Anxious/Wave. But adding the Nueroscience and Hormonal balance to the sexes, as well as Self reflection, in a guided manner that is honed in, with the specificity of a Monk. Well, you have to just thank your lucky stars...this book has found you. I agree with 99% of his work. I just wonder, personally, why his books don't build upon attachment as most others do. But the 99% of his advice, especially hormonal balance and Self work/love, makes the issues moot. Disappear. And, never to have existed. Your history, with your partner, will need to be re-written.

Shock and Awe, in a Good Way

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Reviewed: 02-11-2020

Once again, the Father of Originality is making straightforward sense, correlating the Nueroscience of male and female nutrients with biological and psychological well being, with the fluidity of teaching, Monk, style. Eg No judgement here. My regret is not having read his work since MAFMWAFV. To those who are dieting, or taking medication, no kidding. There are foods men and women should avoid. For your sake of health, happiness and relationships its well worth the time to make an "informed" decisions as every choice we make (our dietary intake) unknowingly has a reach and effect on Our perception, our behaviour, and actions, upon Others. Here in, lies the foundation of learning to love yourself, heal your self, and heal Others. Blessings to Dr John Gray for his Selfless contributions to harmony on Earth. Improvements: This book needs an accompanying pdf. Chapters titled, is always more helpful.

Unreal - Everything you need to Know to Kick Ass.

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Reviewed: 24-10-2020

Had my firsf listren. Now heading back in for more notes. Reading this, one could hone in on their unique situ, and get a plan in motion, in under a week. The Narcs plan will backfire. A great term my lawyer says is, give em "the kitchen sink".

This will help

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Reviewed: 04-10-2020

The methodology is Attachment, and Osmosis without talking about it. Good examples. One would need to listen repeatedly to make significant strides. it only takes one, to make a difference, statistically better than couples therapy if only one, does the work. The Other, responds accordingly. Give it time. Read, Attachment Amir Levine if interested in the psychology. Its Original and i appreciated the therapy sessions.

i hope ppl will be kinder TOO. Thanks Eddie

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Reviewed: 08-09-2020

i appreciated the story. My grandfather was a POW, liberated, and on another march of death. He didn't return a kinder person tho. Crazy and violent. As tho desensitized, which i noticed children were bashed and mums just ate their food. So terrible and so important that someone is there to watch your back and to care for too. i am glad you healed from your wounds and shared your story of resilience.

A Helpful Perspective

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Reviewed: 10-08-2020

Excellent narration! i listened twice. I've rated overall a 3. As an introduction it was dumbed down, perhaps too much so for my liking. i learned something about pair bonding. Nicely said. And also picked up the religious correlations. Don't leave out Sikhism. It is in the Top 5 in World. Rooted in both Buddhism & Hinduism, and Non-dualism. Our anthropologic history is sound. However the speculative generality re: "trance" states drawing simplistic correlations to every type - I'd edit it right out. The significance of each should not have been jumbled- a trance state. Unless to emphasise only the physiological syncing of heart, brain energy waves (you left out) as well as healthy endorphins. A second lacking is the outdated nuero-sci. re: Which parts of our brain operates what exactly - and in conjunction with evolutionary & modern social constructs. Let us point out - the Amagydalan and ancient limbic systems are doing the driving for most of the population and despite our evolution. Hence, that Trance State you skipped over is the only way to let go of the wheel and get to exactly where you need to be, sooner. Read: The Master & His Emissary - The Devided Brain This work is the most comprehensive that i am aware.

READ SOMETHING THAT WILL HELP YOU

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Reviewed: 27-07-2020

This book is correct in diagnosis, but wrong, in its advice to find your perfect partner, just as you are. Either ignorant or kind to say we are good-enough as we are. The strategies are state Self-less love, in an overly complex way. To consider the effect of our words, choices that effect Others is reverse engineering. Start with loving intention for the greater good, seek possibilities thru a lenz of Self-Less Love, and perceive and co-resourcefully create and act in pursuit of our highest good. Be present, appreciative and grateful for your life and to share life with the Other, for whom, you should have unconditional positive regard. Negative, selfish thought ends life. it is not a state of growth. It is martyrdom, taking as many down with you. All of our programming can be addressed, insightfully. DIY at that. If you need to an objective ear ask a few therapists. They are trained to keep their personal bias out of the issues. At the end of the day ... our purpose is BE the One, not find the One. BEcome our best Self, to beget the love of Others. BE the light and you shall receive accordingly. Ghandi, Martin Luther King, G Jung, Alan Watts, Buddhah and of course our most renowned earthly sovereign, JC. All of us should be working towards personal development. Not ignore the weeds in our own backyard. Or, accept they are there. The cure to our pain is to integrate our fragmented child SELF within, who speaks with anger, judgement, and critisisms generations old. The voice in our mind. Who WE are, our Spiritual, immortality, is our Soul, our mind's witness to the voices of the child. Our reptilian Amagydalan. Accepting our Scrooge programming is with absence of malice, integrity, accountability and empathy for Our Self, in need of acceptance by us. What could be more wonderful then to learn what you need, heal it, and to recognise and give the Other what they need. If you don't bother to do any personal development, you might unknowingly cause the very harm to another, that was caused you. Mirroring. That which you think of another, is TRUE of our Self. G Jung, Those who endeavour to come to terms with themselves must reckon with this BASIC problem. For to the degree we deny the Other, we deny the Other within Ourselves the right to exist. Spiritually Scientific Psychotherapy G Jung, G Maté, M Epstein, G Hendricks, Abraham Hicks, Pema Chodron, ACIM, G Chapman and more, will show you the spiritual approach to DIY heal your Child-Self and - create everything in your life, your way. A new, compassionate, empathic and better you. Your True Self. Not an image. Six months tops!! You can BE archetype on the outside, not a mask, covering your TRUE Self. The disempowered, underdeveloped, neglected child. Love and peace is present within our Self, in every moment. Get busy! - Coping with diagnosis is not a cure. For becoming ever wiser, tolerant and kinder IS appropriate to ever changing life for as long as we live. Best wishes

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Psycho Babble "Attachment" is Not Love

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Reviewed: 27-07-2020

After reading this book, definitely a must, you will be able to analyse Others and know their attachment style. Lean in, and give the necessary assurances. But, as the author states, this knowledge is the tip of the iceberg. Science reading (Diagnoses is not a cure) Winnicot, The Good Enough Parent John Gottman The Science of Trust Stan Tatkin, Relationships RX Spiritual + Science (All areas of life) Gabor Maté Gay Hendricks Gary Chapman After reading this, you only need to once. It is not empowering to diagnose. it is empowering to grow, thrive, follow your bliss and KNOW your End Game and how to achieve most of it within months, not years. This cycle can do a turn around toward your Souls desires (which we all share the same-Soul desire) spoiler alert. It's called feeling Loved unconditionally. End aside. Attachment: Read dating profiles and flag the minds of Avoidants hung up on the illusions of the PAST ex that got away; the Anxious, whos heart was broken in the PAST, and also the Secure, who finally gave up on the Avoidants. Sad fact, the Avoidants are the majority of the available men/women. WARNING! Stan Tatkin, Relationship RX, his most comprehensive work, Avoidants, Secure, and Anxious will "present" as normal. The Avoidants will and do gravitate toward socio-sexuality, manoshpere. The drive is powerlessness (failed narcissism) and finding a weaker person to be dominant over, conquer, control, and discard. Cycle repeat. (The Human Magnet). Science has less than 1/% globally, of curing the Avoidant. There is a SINGLE published case of earned, re-learned Secure attachment from Fearful Avoidant. The patient was in so much pain, decided to fix it. It took 4 years. We are all, at least, a little 'Avoidant', having been exposed to, and emotionally abused by Avoidants walking the Earth, who dictate that separatism and emotional independence is the meaning of Life. They prefer to walk past people if they're dying in the street. The Avoidant, will not attach. Only with therapy will they conceded of degrees of accountability. They have no incentive and cannot desire an emotionally healthy relationship. Moreover, He/she, will statistically grow old and die single and unhappy, blaming the Other for nagging and neediness. In addition, The barrier *split* in the mind, is unbearable. The fear of feeling fear that won't go away. It is so unbearable people take their own life. Conclusion: The advice given is sooo decades old wrong. All of us are a bit Scrooge. Have hurt Others intentionally. This book offers zero personal development. Only bolstering your confidence that our behaviour is normal. Our programming must and can be overcome. Everyone but us, can see our appropriateness. If you want to Attract the One, you have to Be the One you want to attract. If you are feeling emotional pain now, knowlege, from this book, will not heal it. Hopefully, your take-away will be to dismiss the assertion that your authentic Self is enough. You are not going to be authentic unless you choose to re-program your attachment style, and BE the things you WISH your parent gave you. Until we do, we will hurt needlessly dwelling on the past, and accepting things within us, that rightly don't need to exist. How we were raised is our parents effort, and we can become wiser and nuture ourselves accordingly, and pass it on in spades to all we know. This book will enlighten you to the probability of relationship failure. Without incentive, there is no hope the Other will come around. The Avoidants purpose is to invalidate, and use you. (INVESTMENT THEORY). Add to our attachment woes, is the scientific heart breaking fact, The Science of Trust, John Gottman... Why, your Avoidant choose you and is still with you, that the certainty of status is to be gained or lost. With an Avoidant one is never loved, they do not know empathy. Their empathy is cognitive acknowledgment. Yes, i know bc...and its no big deal bc...have a drink..You are psycho. You'll never hear, like a good coach, i understand how that must feel terrible. I'm here for you, we'll work this out together if you need me. I'm here for you. Relief is Out There WE are the only ones who can heal and reintegrate our fragmented child-Self. Who waits, for US to go back to age 2, 3, 5, 10, .... and acknowledge our pain, forgive our innocence of no wrong doing, and THANK and coddle your little Self for helping you survive. When we mediate, our Egos voice, which is usually paranoid and emotional, is the voice you're seeking. Pay attention to non-judgementally. It is not reality. Thought is illusion. Talk to and embrace your child Self, age appropriately. You're an adult now. Be the Mother you needed and give assurance, you are loved unconditionally and will treat yourself and Others with positive regard. Never from an intent driven by fear. There is nothing to fear. Fear is in our mind. You/We, not the Other, has to first Love your Self. The pre-verbal child who was beaten, shamed, guilted, ignored, and humilated for needing food, felt pain from illness, or felt fear and cried or got angry because their needs for unconditional love from the Mother or caregiver, caused their development as a Self-Less loving human, appropriate to Life, to suffer. By suffer, we mean, all suffer. Caveat: It takes only 2-3 weeks for development to suffer a life-time. Example: Death of a parent...the baby will feel the stress cortisol of the mother. Prolonged stress at a preverbal age is unbearable. A take away FOR all of us, as Jung put it, To those who intend to come to terms with themselves, must reckon with this BASIC problem. For, to the degree we deny the Other, we deny the Other within Ourself, the right to exist. Eg Our attachment style. Our personality. The only cure, undoing, atonement Take your pick, is Self-Less Love. Deep down, even in the Avoidants repitilian brain, it's instinctual. Evolution of the species are founded on maternal instincts to share food, pick up the defenceless baby, and nuture emotionally. Plus the males determination to overcome fear and feed and protect the village. The village, is now, everyone who's lives are effected by our intention, our choices, and our beliefs. Either our intent is the greater good, or personal gain. Bearable, Deep, Fast, and Empowering Gay Hendricks, Learning to Love Your Self Physiology and subconscious Nathaniel Brandon, The Psychology of Self Esteem

Way to Go- Smartly

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Reviewed: 03-07-2020

Yes. The Kito diet works. However, FIRST thing to do EVERYDAY is drink lemon water. Lots of it. Which allows the liver to detox of the fats in your liver and pollutants. Next, celery juice. NOT heaps. It is high in sodium and you'll NOT feel headachy as it lasts a very long time. The more celery juice you drink the more you won't be dehydrated even in a desert. No kidding. So remember to flush your fatty liver everyday - otherwise you'll be storing toxins. Do the lemon water AND the celery juice and you'll have Mental Clarity and be in a great psyiologocal, emotional, and even spiritual state of mind. Best wishes - Go Kito Excellent book, well researched, and great narration.

Great Respect

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Reviewed: 23-06-2020

My background is multi-thiest, and my goal, the same as the author, in guiding people inward...which is what i was hoping to read - but alas, not covered here. Every word and concept is understood, accepted and appreciated - by me, anyway, but for the skeptic, I was not able to pinpoint any transformative instruction to impart to Others apart from the types of Yoga, and what each of them are for...That's a big deal - right there. You can then, find someone locally and learn it. So, yes, the Author is highly experienced through experiential knowledge, well-spoken, and extrapolated the labels of spirituality we have come to misunderstand - to the enth degree of usefulness to our lives upon degrees of transformation of our inner Self. The door inward, and which directions they can lead is worth buying this book. It does take time and practice- so, i am not dissapointed at all. Perhaps, a sequel as to guided meditation- just so the reader can have support would ensure the reader CAN open the door inward.