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Good principles but bad practical advice

2 out of 5 stars
2 out of 5 stars
2 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 13-10-2017

The underlying messages of this book I believe are sound however the practical examples the author advises you to take are horribly wrong. I quote a section from Chapter 6 where the scenario is a small toddler has thrown their bowl of cereal all over the floor. The author describes the underlying reasons for the child doing this, such as jealousy of another sibling, wanting the full parent's attention, anger or frustration and the parent should, instead of shouting at the child, identify the real reason for the action (which makes sense). However after this the author then states that you should pick the child up and play with him/her, showering him/her with kisses and affection, thus rewarding the child for unacceptable behaviour. There author doesn't seem to believe in any form of discipline, but rather using affection to 'overpower' any undesired feelings of the child. I disagree with this entirely. Yes, a parent should identify the real reason behind the actions of their child and not just resort with anger and shouting - but rewarding negative behaviour is just something I won't be doing.

I looked at this book as a follow on from John Medina's Brain Rules for Baby and am still struggling to find something that is as good!

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