In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents' emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you'll learn how to create positive new relationships so you can build a better life.
©2015 Lindsay C. Gibson (P)2016 Tantor
"Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD, gives practical insight into a prevalent problem.... The book is impeccably clear.... This utter lack of confusion makes the book quite soothing, despite the heavy subject." (Foreword Magazine)
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This book completely revolutionized my life. These concepts of emotionally immature people vs. emotionally mature people, and internalizers vs. externalizers, etc., explain so very much about my existence and the family dynamic I've experienced. It helped to clear up most of the confusion I had regarding my driven parents, and answered questions I didn't even know how to articulate. It truly brought so much healing into my soul, I couldn't get enough of it. I will definitely keep listening to this over and over again, especially when I need the reassurance, clarity, guidance and encouragement that I may never receive from my family. I wish I could hug the author and adopt her as a mentor. What a deep, insightful, and caring individual Dr. Gibson must be, to have written this book. What a blessing. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
SO many A-Ha moments, I am still trying to process it all.
It seem that my whole life I was searching for the information in this book. I came upon this book by strange chance, and I'm so pleased to have found it. Thank you audible for having us in your library this book has shown me so much about myself and my family structure. I absolutely recommend it, not only to those who feel that they might have emotionally immature parents, but also for those people who feel that their own partner might be suffering from emotionally immature parents. Performance only gets 3 stars because the narrator seemed to inconsistently flip-flop between the "character voice" to a regular reading voice when it came to the case studies, or examples from clients.
"Inspiring & Realistically Relevant"
Dr. Gibson has done a superb job capturing the subtle nuances of men and women sadly impacted by emotionally unavailable parents. Her descriptions are spot-on and parallel my clinical experiences. She provides not only a clearly articulated understanding of the impact neglected parental patterns can have on adult-children but a hopeful and attainable message rooted in neuroscience that change is possible. Bravo! - Ken Celiano, Psy.D.
"Emotional maturity is a topic worthy of study"
Helpful and informative
I like that the text was able to both discuss the effect of a lack of emotional maturity of parents on their grown children as well as discussing emotional maturity in general. I didn't feel that I was getting only a look at "this is what happened to these adults" but rather a continuum of the effects of emotional immaturity in all stages, including the ability to reflect on my own life and emotional maturity as a parent and how it may affect my children.
The narration was well delivered and kept me interested. I'm a slow reader, and so I expect it would have taken me much longer to get through a print version, but Ms. Gavin kept the text moving along and always kept me interested.
Not based on the book
All in all, I was very pleased with the book as a study of emotional maturity at all levels. It was very helpful and gave me a good understanding of the subject, and made me want to learn more, not to mention find ways to mature emotionally. It also did help to a great degree regarding digging into the past and finding the roots of why we act the way we do.
"Explanation on why and practical advice on how to handle"
This book was truly life changing in discovering not only why but how and what to do regarding growing up with emotionally immature parents. I plan to re-read it again to fully absorb it all. I especially liked the examples provided as most all were relatable.
The narrator was borderline unbearable and were it literally any other audiobook I would have promptly returned it. She sounded like she was teaching 1st graders, tone was off. I hope this is not her day job.
"Excellent distillation of concepts"
Excellent distillation of concepts - will recommend to friends, family and clients. I listened to Audible version, then bought book to review and share excerpts.
"Wow enlightenment achieved ❤️"
No counseling I've had in the past has ever pinpointed my constant struggle w inadequacy until this book. Thank you to all the experts who have taught me to awaken and give myself permission to a new beginning.. And understanding the importance of observational awareness to break the cycle for my 1 year old daughter.. She thanks you too
"everyone has to listen to this!"
this is a good book on this subject. invaluable information. helpful narration not obtrusive to listen to. Sympathetic narration. Not sappy or whining. Completely useful everyone should either read or listen to this book at least once in their life. this book has changed my life. One simple note is it is not good at describing the difference between the true self and the false self. there is another one in there that they don't mention possibly because the writer is not Christian. Either way I got a lot out of it and it helped me to understand my experiences with my parents and my experiences with my son. not to mention my ex-husband. So thankful this is on Audible.
"Fantastic and applicable"
As an adult child of someone with two emotionally immature parents (unbeknownst to me until I found this book), I have never felt more understood in my life. This book scientifically and research-based explained my experiences and who my parents are/why I have habits that I do. It has served to help me manage my parent relationships in a way that protects me from emotional and psychological hurt while also helping me to realize areas I need to improve in because of poor habits I have learned/used. I couldn't recommend this book more highly.
"Opened my mind. Changed my life."
This book opened my eyes to myself and my parents. That my child hood coping strategies as an internalizer included healing fantasies and a role self. I realize how not knowing who I truly am or what I want lead me to my abusive ex husband who externalizes. It helped me have compassion for everyone. Myself, my x husband, my parents. We all did the best with what we knew but subconscious coping skills built our egos and robbed us from our true selves and from giving and receiving true love and having deep emotional connections with others. I now know what is lacking and what I can do to have deeper relationships. Now to practice and grow from what I learned. Great book! I liked the readers voice too. Thank you!
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