A great "philosopher" once said, "Trying to understand women is like trying to smell the color nine." But the fact is, men can understand women to their great benefit. All they need is the right teacher. And, arguably, there is no better teacher than John Gottman, PhD, a world-renowned relationships researcher and author of the best-selling 7 Principles of Making Marriage Work.
His new book, written with wife Julie Gottman, a clinical psychologist; Doug Abrams; and Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD, is based on 40 years of scientific study, much of it gleaned from the Gottmans' popular couples' workshops and the "love lab" at the University of Washington. It's written primarily for men because new research suggests that it is the man in a relationship who wields the most influence to make it great or screw it up beyond repair.
The Man's Guide to Women offers the science-based answers to the question: What do women really want in men? The book explains the hallmarks of manhood that most women find attractive and helps men hone those skills to be the men women desire.
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Good insight with no egotistical undertone like other books I've read. I would recommed to both qlued up and clueless men. There is both priceless nuggets of information and reassurance of what you'll already know
"Great advice from the Love Lab again"
If you want to develop your communication methods and create a stronger relationship, then this is an excellent choice. The term Zero and Hero are used often, and I like to think you might as well sum it up as how not to be an asshat. I was raised mostly by women and thought I had a decent grasp. This book tied together a lot of parts and pieces of the right things and behaviors floating about in my brain.
Even if you're in a good relationship you can still gain from the insights held within.
"Not for Veterans"
This book has great advice, but seems to be written with an audience in mind of those in the initial stages o my a relationship. I have been married for 7 years, though this was helpful, it was not intended for me.
"should be mandatory"
if you love a woman, get this book. ATTUNE works immediately. there are some assumptions steeped in traditional role definitions at the end, toward the sexuality section. these may or may not apply to your relationship. either way, the content and the concept are worth a listen.
"Great listen, but remember to be a man."
This information and narration was great. Easy to listen to and informative. Just don't become a soft pushover.
"A book for women not so much for men."
Instead of just focusing on explaining the woman which apparently can and can't be explained because sometimes alle women are the same and some times all women are completely different.
He did a good job of sounding condescending to men
Annoyance at being spoken down too most of the time. I found my self say yes, but stop talking to me like I am some sort of Neanderthal
This is a book for a self congratulating woman who like to be spoken of in the third person. I regret buying this book I got very little value out of it. The beginning was good I didn't mind what I thought was sarcasm, but as it continued on it got weary. After the way, way to short part about crazy women the book just went all in on women are wonderful no matter what. It did not make me understand women better. Rather it was a bucket list of behavior I should and should not do.
"Detailed, Informative, and Funny"
I enjoyed the book. I wasn't sure the narrator was the best fit; however, I am a woman and perhaps a man would like his presentation. The content was great, but I didn't like the "zero" vs. "hero" titles. Other than those things I thought it was funny and can't wait to see what my husband thinks. I am definitely going to check out the marriage books since this one did center a lot on the single male or pre-relationship stage.
"Is there a "woman's guide to men"?"
I thought the book was incredibly insightful but after listening to it I feel waited down with an overwhelming job that can never be met. I've made uneducated attempts to accomplish these things with two prior marriages but feel that just like this book describes all time, services, resources go from men to women I would like to hear if there's some sort of balance. It also seemed to me that the more I tried to provide these suggested tasks the higher the requirement became until there was nothing left of me except a spineless man surveying an endlessly demanding woman until I needed to escape to have any vestige of a life of my own where I had some control of my time, my resources, and my own goals.
"Totally relevant information"
I felt like this book was written for me. Every chapter has value. Be sure to bookmark!
"This should be required reading!"
Where do I begin? From beginning to end Gottman and team have nailed it when it comes to women! I found myself agreeing almost to its entirety. I think every man should read this book before diving into a serious relationship or during a relationship they really want to endure. I sent it the man I love and to whom I had recently ended the relationship with and he wrote me back saying how he now realizes the many things he did wrong. Gottman and his team really did their research and I love that it was a man writing the book primarily versus a woman because not many men would take it as serious were it the case. Also, it made me laugh out loud so many times-wow! He really nailed it! Thank you!
"A book every man should read!"
This book is incredible! As a woman, I learned things about myself that I didn't even know before reading this book. I think this should be required reading for every man when he graduates high school. What a different world this would be!
"A good investment..."
Except for perhaps one or two tips, and that it's worded like all the change or responsibility is for the man, this book is probably the best I've read (heard - thanks audible) and has many lessons. I'm sure I'll play it through a few times.
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