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How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism Audiobook

How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism

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I remember when I aimed for perfect workouts: 30 minutes was the minimum.

I was in lousy shape.

I remember when I aimed for perfect dating: it couldn't be awkward, forced, or uncertain.

I didn't talk to women I was interested in.

I remember when I aimed for perfect writing: I wanted 1,000+ words of quality material per day.

I played video games instead.

I carefully avoided mistakes, endlessly ruminated about what I didn't do, and what I did do wasn't enough.

Then, I became an imperfectionist.

Everything changed. I had fun stories to tell, like the lesbian pizza incident and the most nervous "Hi" ever spoken by a human being. I learned more. I laughed more. I lived more.

I got in great shape, read more books, and improved my social skills. I wrote Mini Habits, which is being translated into a dozen languages.

I found I could mess up and still win.

Perfectionism is a naturally limiting mindset. For example, kids are taught to color inside the lines, and any color outside the lines is considered a mistake that must be corrected. Imperfectionism frees us to live outside the lines, where possibilities are infinite, mistakes are allowed, and self-judgment is minimal.

While the freedom of imperfectionism is impactful, it does not preclude us from having problems. Imperfectionists aren't so ironic as to have perfect lives, they're just happier, healthier, and more productive at doing what matters.

©2015 Stephen Guise (P)2015 Stephen Guise

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    Amazon Customer 27/07/2015
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    "Imperfectly Perfectly great!
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    I have read the book. And now I plan to listen to it a second time. It is sweetly simple advice to life. This is my 5th time listening to iit. IT IS SIMPLY AMAZING!:) 6th time listening!

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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  • Sandra Makuch
    16/10/16
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    "Please read 8,100,352 times"
    Where does How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

    This is one of the most life-changing books I have ever read and listened to and read and listened to. I'm guessing it would impact anyone's life in a very positive manner, if taken to heart. Guise takes aim at perfectionism in an honest, engaging way and the wonderful advice is easily applied. Guise has a lot of down-home clarity and he impresses me with his humility and transparency regarding his own struggles with perfectionism. I highly recommend it.


    What was one of the most memorable moments of How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism?

    The discussion of analog vs. binary ways of evaluating our efforts was particularly helpful.


    What about Daniel Penz’s performance did you like?

    I found it hard to believe he is not Stephen Guise! Often when listening to recordings of books, I think the narrator is not understanding what he is reading; Penz reads it like he wrote it! He has a great voice and manner of speaking.


    Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

    Both - it was funny and made me laugh at the author and my own foolishness, but I also felt sad as I realized that I had created so much suffering for myself and others with my perfectionism, and that I had so little appreciated my own efforts, just because they were imperfect.


    Any additional comments?

    A must read for a healthy, productive life.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
  • Domenikos Theotokopoulos
    1/10/15
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    "A refreshing new way of pursuing achievement"

    I think the subtitle is very descriptive of the book: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism.

    The narration was excellent also.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
  • Dan Kelly
    Dallas, TX
    14/05/16
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    "Good, but not perfect. ;-)"

    It has some really good ideas, ones that I will work on. But, in trying to cover helpful tips fur all of the types of perfectionism, there were only a few concepts that were directly applicable to my situation.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
  • mohd
    31/10/16
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    "realy life changing"

    stop thinking just go buy and read or hear the book :) be an imperfectionist now,there's more to it
    then just to be imperfect

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Cliente Amazon
    12/09/16
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    "Worth acquiring"

    This book is life changing. It's content and tips are realistically practical. Recommend it for every perfectionist.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Emily Honeycutt
    21/04/16
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    "One of the best self-help books I've ever read!"

    I'm a writer and this book actually gives me the tools to help me with my struggles with perfectionism, procrastination, rumination and fear. Rather than just motivation or positive thinking, this book provides dozens of easy, effective, real-world techniques such as beginning mini habits, setting timers and adjusting your standards. Taking action is actually the solution to rumination. I'll be listening to this one over and over again. I'll definitely get Stephen's other book, Mini-Habits, too. I also recommend Wayne Dyer's book, Excuses Begone! to anyone dealing with perfectionism. I've listened to it several times and while he doesn't offer the techniques that Stephen does, it is helpful in changing your mindset. Thanks so much, Stephen, for writing a life-changing book!

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • A curious visitor
    17/08/15
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    "Want to be mediocre and be happy about it?"

    Then this book is for you. And I'm not saying that in a cynical way, but factually, this is a book sized pitch for mediocrity and how to be okay with it. Kind of like the western version of zen, or "if you can't have what you like, start liking what you have". If that's your goal (and honestly, it is not a bad goal, just isn't what I want), read this book. It'll give you useful strategies for achieving peace of mind and enjoying a life without striving for extremes and being happy with with what you can get without getting out of your comfort zone.

    Having listened to this book right after "Elon Musk" by Ashlee Vance (a GREAT book) the contrast between the two philosophies couldn't be greater. Should Elon have read this book and took it to heart early in his career, we wouldn't have PayPal, Tesla and Space-X, but there would be a happy camper insignificant Elon Musk working on some minor project that he could do without "unreasonable" expectations and being such a controversial perfectionist shooting for the moon (quite literally) and refusing to give up no matter what, and refusing to settle for less no matter what. That's exactly what the book argues AGAINST. He even quotes psychology experiments that "prove" that aiming lower results in better performance (note: obviously, the selection of participants for the experiment must have skewed the result - if you design an experiment about "achievement" and only include average people, i.e. non-achievers like 99.99% of the population, then your experiment just proves that average people feel uncomfortable and perform less if they are stressed because of high expectations - the very stress that brings out the best in high achievers).

    So, according to the author, the recipe for happiness is to aim for less to prevent disappointment. Really? Musk, Jobs, Bezos, Zuckerberg and many others would probably disagree. The BIG point the author misses: while MOST people don't believe that they are destined to or capable of or even need to achieve anything extraordinary (99.99% of the people are happy if they are healthy, have a happy family, no financial stress and an OK job - but you have to admit that that's really not much to aim for as one's "goals in life"), his approach, while safe for the masses, is a huge turnoff and NOT true for anyone trying to achieve BIG things.

    If enough potential high achievers read this book, we can go back to hunting and gathering and be perfectly happy about it. Ironically, most of the things that made it possible for the author to create, and for me to read this book (the internet, online payments, audio books, my iPhone I used to listen to it, Amazon.com, etc.) wouldn't even exist if the creators of those breakthrough tools would have decided to suppress their urges to accomplishing great (always looking "unreasonable" at the time) revolutionary advancements in technology in favor of their "peace and happiness". Yet, that's what the author recommends for you and I to do.

    I will admit that I AM a perfectionist and got this book because I thought it would give me strategies for getting the great results I want by being less of a perfectionist, but I got none of that from the book - instead, it tried to convince me to settle for less. No thanks.

    On the other hand, if you actually are the kind of person who would trade achievements for comfort, if you don't mind not doing anything really significant with your life and you want to feel OK about it, this book will do a great job making you feel OK.

    The narrator is great.

    p.s. I corrected and improved this review about 30 times because I'm a perfectionist :-). If it was useful to you because it's well written, then that proves this book wrong :-)

    12 of 26 people found this review helpful
  • Olga Tomchin
    19/05/16
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    "Meh"

    He should stop harassing women & the narrator annoyed me a lot. Some useful info though.

    0 of 1 people found this review helpful
  • Rachel R.
    Oakland, CA
    8/12/15
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    "Marketing Smarm"
    This book wasn’t for you, but who do you think might enjoy it more?

    My friend enjoyed it a lot. He works in sales and is a confident sort of guy that this voice, tone, and writing style worked for him. I work in marketing and couldn't get past the lack of cited science, generalizations and underlying marketing structure of the book.


    Has How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism turned you off from other books in this genre?

    No. This is an important topic and I'm working to find another book that I can stand to listen to on the topic.


    Did Daniel Penz do a good job differentiating all the characters? How?

    Yeah. His voice was like the hair of a used car salesman: slick and sticky.


    What character would you cut from How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism?

    not applicable.


    Any additional comments?

    no

    1 of 5 people found this review helpful
  • Tamra Stretch
    13/10/15
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    "we can't finish !"

    My husband and I only got maybe a third of the way through because we just found the narrator's voice to be annoying. Sorry, we know that's harsh. Do a sample listen first! . ..which I did do, but it didn't seem to be bothersome in the short sample.

    0 of 3 people found this review helpful
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  • Jonathan
    9/03/16
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    "Perfect for perfectionists"

    After so many other books have failed to pinpoint my problem this one just worked!
    It uses a great mix of charming analogy and scientific evidence to point out where problems lie and sets out so many great techniques to move forward in a lasting way!

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
  • Bob
    Bracknell, United Kingdom
    11/10/15
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    "Inspiration to act differently"
    What did you like most about How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism?

    I first read this book on Kindle and while I understood it intectually, it didn't motivate me to act differently. The Audible version is somehow (for me at least) easier to internalise.


    What other book might you compare How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism to, and why?

    Buddhism for Busy People. Not for the religious aspects, but for the recommendations on taking charge of your own life.


    What about Daniel Penz’s performance did you like?

    I found the narration very engaging.


    Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

    I never feel compelled to consume any audio books in one sitting. I completed it in around 3 days, with time to digest the content between listens.


    Any additional comments?

    I just downloaded Mini Habits by the same author (I already have it in Kindle format) to see if that is also more compelling as an audio book.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
  • Andrew Byrne
    23/10/16
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    "Brilliant!"

    Loved this, goes much deeper than I expected. A really excellent all round self improvement book, brilliantly written with some genuine laugh out loud moments. Narrator is excellent too.

    A great title and one I'll revisit often.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • C. E. Scurr
    15/09/16
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    "Useful and usable"

    Another very useful and usable audio book from Stephen Guise. With this and 'Mini Habits' I have taken a huge step up my learning ladder. Putting his suggestions into practice is easy and already bring positive results.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful

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