Janet Lansbury's advice on respectful parenting is quoted and shared by millions of listeners worldwide. Inspired by the pioneering parenting philosophy of her friend and mentor, Magda Gerber, Janet's influential voice encourages parents and child-care professionals to perceive babies as unique, capable human beings with natural abilities to learn without being taught; to develop motor and cognitive skills; communicate; face age appropriate struggles; initiate and direct independent play for extended periods; and much more. Once we are able to view our children in this light, even the most common daily parenting experiences become stimulating opportunities to learn, discover, and to connect with our child. Elevating Child Care is a collection of 30 popular and widely discussed articles from Janet's website that focus on some of the most common infant/toddler issues: eating, sleeping, diaper changes, communication, separation, focus and attention span, creativity, boundaries, and more. Eschewing the quick-fix tips and tricks of popular parenting culture, Janet's insightful philosophy lays the foundation for a closer, more fulfilling parent/child relationship, and children who grow up to be authentic, confident, successful adults.
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The book presents some really good and important points such as respect, connection, acceptance that actually makes the reading worth. From this point of view I would definitely recommend this book
However I would be very cautious with some of the advices here. The book is based on Magda Gerber and although have clear valid points it is NOT BASED on the last RESEARCHS or science facts found about babies' brain and parenting. Therefore some of advices such as not wearing baby as much or comforting with touch for instance dismiss some important aspects about oxytocin. Suggesting leaving a baby crying for short periods to take a shower for example clearly doesn't cover some of the issues that distress can create on infants' brain, etc. Just pointing few exemples here. Also what she says about conditioning the baby with our habits seems totally wrong for me. (For instance The babies learn to like being rocked on womb not in our arms! Rocking is just a natural transition to outside world, therefore instinctive!)
Also touching is such an important aspect of parenting and although the tone of voice it's obviously important, nothing it's like touching and cuddling a baby! And this is an instinctive parenting need! The book can lead to a different perception and that's what worries me with good intentioned parents reading this book...
"Wish I had this book when my daughter was born!"
I really like this approach and it works! there's a lot less yelling at my house and my cooperation from my 4 yr old daughter. I'd highly recommended this book to any mom!
"A beautiful gift!"
Janet Lansbury writes plainly and eloquently about the relationship between caregiver/parent and child. Through her vision of babies/children as whole people I've began the painful and life-changing process of updating my own outdated beliefs. I can begin to see a clearer path to a genuine, enduring connection with my little humans. This book is a gem that I wish I had before my three kids were born and one that I will continue to gift to new parents. Thank you, Janet!
"Best parenting advice out there"
This is such a deeply empathetic approach to child care, it actually made me reflect on my relationships with everyone else around me. Not only that, but implementing these observation and non-interventional techniques into my parenting turned out to be good approaches to dealing with others too. It gives your kids, you, and those around you the chance to do their own best work and find empowerment though the success they found themselves. It sounds backward, but it's not. It's the best parenting advice I've ever received.
"Short & sweet"
The book is like an experienced person telling you the things they wish they had known when they started. It sounds conversational, accessible, but packed with helpful tips that build on some founding principles and philosophies on child rearing.
This book is short, sweet, and to the point. Initially I debated whether I wanted to spend a book credit on this short book, I'm so glad I did. She could have easily fluffed the book with stories and anecdotes to make it a standard 8hr long listen, but I appreciate that she didn't.
The author did a great job of narrating this audiobook.
I loved listening to this book, extremely calming, especially as a perfectionist first time mom.
Finished listening to this book in one day. I plan on buying a hard copy and reading it again!
"Excellent Parenting Strategys"
I love the RIE approach to raising babies, and Janet Lansbury is able to keep it simple but be thorough in her book. Audible books has made my sleepless nights much easier ;)
"Very helpful if you are losing your s@%#t"
This book and No Bad Parents are so very helpful. I've been stressed out and missing the point. I so appreciate Lansbury's books.
Easy to listen to and great information. While some challenged beliefs I've held for a long time, Janet's explanations brought me around. I'm hooked.
"Fluffy but Useful"
This is not an ask-an-expert parenting book. Janet Lansbury is a sort-of-used-to-be-famous disciple of Magda Gerber, an infant development expert who died in 2007. Lansbury doesn't claim to be an expert, but she is a wholehearted believer in the RIE approach to respectful parenting and has years of experience teaching this method to other parents. This book is almost entirely about infants and toddlers, not older children.
In principle, RIE is about respecting children from birth as whole people and letting them develop and learn on their own terms and in their own time. I agree with this principle, but, like any parenting ideology, it inevitably gets taken too far, like when Lansbury is very critical of parents asking toddlers harmless questions like, "Where's your nose?" because, apparently, that creates performance anxiety...? And although it's nice in theory to ask an infant's permission to change their diaper, it's a little much to expect parents to never need to get through a diaper change with an active nine-month-old without a distraction like a toy or a song, or to constantly tell a newborn everything that is about to happen at all times. I also don't believe in never explicitly teaching children things. If you don't expose them to something, how are they supposed to know whether or not it interests them? The book also tells you to ignore your parenting instincts in favour of doing everything the RIE approach tells you, which in my opinion is more likely to make parents feel insecure and not genuine than it is to help them make good decisions for their kids.
That said, the majority of the advice is useful if you can manage to not take the sanctimonious parts too seriously. Messages for parents like "take care of yourself", "it's okay to let kids be frustrated", "you don't need to entertain your baby", and "boundaries are important and necessary, not mean" are all good and helpful things for parents to hear. Is some of it contrived? Sure. But the overall message is reassuring and surprisingly realistic. Your baby needs the freedom to explore, and it is completely reasonable to restrict their play areas with gates/fences/etc. to keep them safe. The vast majority of babies will roll, sit up, walk, talk, and toilet-train in their own time and focusing on median-based milestone timing is a recipe for unnecessary parent anxiety. Your baby doesn't need to be attached to you 24/7 to feel secure. Your toddler will thrive in a world with limits and natural consequences. Hovering and constantly intervening is not helpful and often actively undermines kids who are trying to develop social skills or learning to solve problems. Kids are happiest with simple toys and a safe play environment - they don't need noisy, over-complicated "educational" toys or fancy music classes to learn and grow. Take your cues from your child when making decisions about everything from mealtimes to conflicts with other children and don't rely on tricks or manipulative tactics to make them do what you want.
Lansbury, perhaps because she used to be an actor, is a very good narrator. Unlike many books read by the author, this one felt comfortable and natural.
I can't give this book five stars. It's definitely above average for a parenting book, but still a little judgmental and often not based on actual developmental science. However, it was much better than I expected and would be worth listening to again in the future.
Yes, I would. Since the information given applies to children of a very wide range: infants, toddlers as well as teenegers is a book that I would listen again in the future.
That this approach makes total sense to me, to treat babies and small children in a respectful manner as you would treat an adult.
It's my first time listening to Janet Lansbury.
Yes, when she talked about her mum and her relationship with her.
Very enlightening and logical. I'll listen to it again in a few months when my baby is a toddler.
"Give this book a go you will be pleasantly suprisd"
loved this. I am practising rie. janet voice is very calming and collective.I love listening to the book while I cook or do chores.
"A different but life changing approach"
I first heard this audiobook when my son was around five months old, now fifteen months later I heard it again to remind me of the approach to the toddler challenges. I have to confess that at first not everything made sense, I was overwhelmed, trying to be the perfect parent and it simply wasn't working, now I realize how my life changed with everything I started putting in practice and how I gained confidence with what was natural for me but questioned by many people. My son is a very confident child, focused and we can see his own personality developing day by day. I wish I had heard about this approach before.
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