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Avoidant Audiobook

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner

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Publisher's Summary

Jeb Kinnison's previous book on finding a good partner by understanding attachment types (Bad Boyfriends: Using Attachment Theory to Avoid Mr. (or Ms.) Wrong and Make You a Better Partner) brought lots of people to JebKinnison.com, where the most asked-about topic was how to deal with avoidant lovers and spouses. There are many now in troubled marriages who are looking for help, as well as people already invested in a relationship short of marriage who'd like help deciding if they should stick with it.

People in relationships with avoidants struggle with their lack of responsiveness and inability to tolerate real intimacy. Relationships between an avoidant and a partner of another attachment type are the largest group of unhappy relationships, and people who love their partners and who may have started families and had children with an avoidant will work very hard to try to make their relationships work better, out of love for their partner and children as well as their own happiness. The avoidants in these relationships are more than likely unhappy with the situation as well - retreating into their shells and feeling harassed for being asked to respond with positive feeling when they have little to give.

The other reason why so many people are looking for help on this topic is that it is an almost impossible problem. Couples counsellors rarely have the time or knowledge to work with an avoidant and will often advise the spouse to give up on a dismissive, especially, whose lack of responsiveness looks like cruelty or contempt (and sometimes it is).

Yet there is some hope - though it may take years and require educating the avoidant on the patterns of good couples communication; if both partners want to change their patterns toward more secure and satisfying models, it can be done.

©2014 Jeb Kinnison (P)2015 Jeb Kinnison

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  • Jolene Monheim
    10/04/15
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    "Worth a listen!"

    As a person married to an avoidant I learned a great deal. Especially, that there is hope. I always wondered what was wrong, why my husband didn't take my needs into consideration, and thought that I was the problem... I'm an anxious avoidant. This book gave me a lot of information and my husband is listening to it too and finds it beneficial. We are practicing kindness and empathy!

    4 of 4 people found this review helpful
  • Katherine Snow
    3/01/16
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    "incredibly helpful!"

    This really helped me understand my partner, and why her behavior made me so crazy jealous. understanding both of our attachment styles has really helped improve our previously difficult to understand relationship.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
  • randy
    28/10/16
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    "A good book"
    What did you like best about Avoidant? What did you like least?

    Does a good job of defining an avoidant


    Did Joe Farinacci do a good job differentiating all the characters? How?

    yes did a great job


    Could you see Avoidant being made into a movie or a TV series? Who should the stars be?

    Im not sure it would hold a movie


    Any additional comments?

    This is a great book to read if you think you may be an avoidant. My SO other claims i was so I have to read this book. This book goes so far as to help you determine what attachment style you are. I was pleased to find out I was a secure type and did not qualify to avoidant.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • jodi Moss
    4/10/16
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    "Nailed and normalized our relationship patterns"

    This read really pointed out the current dynamic between my partner and myself. It helped normalize our very common issues, filled me with a renewed sense of empathy, willingness and trust, and helped point me in the direction I needed. Definite must read for pursuer distancer styles of relating.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Cheryl
    10/09/16
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    "Excellent!"

    Wish I had listened to this book 2 months ago! I'm an anxious attachment and my ex boyfriend is an avoidant attachment.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Curly Lady
    24/04/16
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    "Very Informative"

    I enjoyed this book it was very informative. It made me see myself in a way I never realized before. I will use what I learned in my relationship.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Kamila Starczewska
    16/04/16
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    "One step closer to better you"

    I strongly suggest this book for anyone that is struggling to find understanding and clarity in an otherwise confusing and/or frustrating relationship ... especially one that seems to be conflicting, hypocritical and misleading.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Patrice Crocevera
    24/04/15
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    "Insightful"

    I think this book is for the introspective. If your not open to your own shortcomings, you may not enjoy this book, but if you are, you may feel nod it very insightful, helpful, and even encouraging.

    1 of 2 people found this review helpful

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