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This Is How It Always Is

By: Laurie Frankel
Narrated by: Gabra Zackman
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Publisher's Summary

The Reese Witherspoon x Hello Sunshine Book Club Pick.

A New York Times Audio best seller.

This is how a family keeps a secret...and how that secret ends up keeping them.

This is how a family lives happily ever after...until happily ever after becomes complicated.

This is how children change...and then change the world.

This is Claude. He's five years old, the youngest of five brothers, and loves peanut butter sandwiches. He also loves wearing a dress, and dreams of being a princess.

When he grows up, Claude says, he wants to be a girl.

Rosie and Penn want Claude to be whoever Claude wants to be. They're just not sure they're ready to share that with the world. Soon the entire family is keeping Claude's secret. Until one day it explodes.

Laurie Frankel's This Is How It Always Is is a novel about revelations, transformations, fairy tales, and family. And it's about the ways this is how it always is: change is always hard and miraculous and hard again, parenting is always a leap into the unknown with crossed fingers and full hearts, children grow but not always according to plan. And families with secrets don't get to keep them forever.

©2017 Laurie Frankel (P)2017 Macmillan Audio

Critic Reviews

"A lively and fascinating story of a thoroughly modern family and the giant, multifaceted love that binds them... Sparkles with wit and wisdom." (Maria Semple, best-selling author of Where'd You Go, Bernadette)
"An intelligent, life-affirming, emotionally charged story." ( Prima)

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Beautifully written and performed

Loved it. Sensitively handled and developed. The story had me engaged, inspired, amused and emotional.

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Loved it!

Beautifully written and performed, I enjoyed every moment of this story. The cadence of the writing, the characters, the flow of it and how invested in even some of the minor characters I became made me feel part of the story; indeed, their family!

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nice to have some good trans representation

i really enjoyed the two simultaneous stories of 'real life', and the fairytale that their dad created. the book was very good, i just wished that the author could have explored non-binary identity as well as trans identity.

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I think I’ve played this 25 times

This is a beautiful book, perfectly read. It’s tender and raw and I’m not yet tired of listening to it even though I’ve listened to it every night for over a year. Highly recommend!

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A truly gorgeous and enjoyable story

I absolutely loved this story. It was so beautifully written and the narrator did such a wonderful job. I could not put it down. A joyous tale of acceptance and love. Highly recommended.

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WOW WOW!

My absolute pick for of 2018! Beautiful, sensitive, gripping, beautifully read and a must for parents - eye opening!
Don’t miss this amazing and insightful read!

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Brilliant and inspiring

Fully captivating story and made me question my values, perspectives and use of language! I have recommended this book to anyone who will listen!

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Brilliant

A tender and beautiful story about love difference and impossible choices in parenting. Best read since A Little Life. Highly highly recommended.

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Excellent read and insight into gender identity

Really enjoyed this novel -- captivating from the get go. All the characters were very believable, and your heart just bleeds for the child at the centre of the story. My only criticism is that the ending felt a bit rushed and tied up too neatly with a bow, and I felt the fairy tale that ran alongside the main story was a bit unnecessary at times and made the message a little too *obvious*. But overall, an elegant and excellent read.

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loved it five star plus

best book in ages loved it five star plus. will look for this author again

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